Losing people we love

Losing people we love is never easy, whether we have lost them through death or divorce.
End of life as we know it always throw us for a loop. Why? We don`t like change whether we know it's for the good or not, we just can`t deal with it, we want life to continue as is no matter if the person has been dead for months and we are just waiting for the breath to leave the body or the relationship ended months maybe years ago but we just don`t want to let them go.
I had written the above before the Randy Pausch news came...He was given 6mths to live but he TOOK 22....We expected it but it still sent a shiver through me , not because he died but because he stopped LIVING.......If we learnt nothing else from this man, take how he LIVED -especially in the face of adversity - and impart even a small part of that into your own.
Diane Sawyer is doing a programme on him this (tuesday) evening on Prime Time ABC, don`t miss it.
You will realize how small your issues are when placed in the big scheme of things and believe what he says as we never wake up and smell the roses till something tragic happens to us, don`t wait on it to happen to u, straighten out your priorities now!
When u feel your life is falling apart, you have financial problems, they are coming for the house tomorrow, your spouse just left, u don`t know what to do...JUST STOP......put yourself in the NOW, not tomorrow not yesterday....just take it one day at a time... Then break it down to the moment and second.
Every moment u are having, feel it, be in that moment, once you are in the moment, it matters not what will happen tomorrow. They might not come for the house and u would have fretted and lost your night's sleep for nothing. Tomorrow is another day. U see how they are now saying women are panicking over lumps in their breast unecessarily because they are doing their self exams too often. If your spouse left, look at it from another angle, wow -i have more space, no one to answer to, every negative that pops in your mind, put a positive one there instead.
I have never seen where 'woe is me' helps anyone.
WHY ME?
The answer is WHY NOT ME.