Today I read an e-mail about Bill Cosby and his campaign about black people and the fact that their children are their dirty linen ,and how upset people r about that. Bill Cosby talks about Parenting on Oprah
I just can`t get it out my head how not only the lower classes but all classes of black people have dropped the ball.......when my 30 year old was in his teens if he was playing music and a cuss word came on or something derogatory to women ,he would immediately switch the station or forward the tape or cd,now my 18 year old sees nothing wrong with it and drives merrily while the nastiest songs comes through the speakers as he listens to what he considers music......well the minute i hear them i eject and break them up ...that kind of nastiness will not be played in my space,not my car ,not my house.........how many parents do that?...........A lot of what our children do is because their peers do it and get away with it,so they do it thinking they can get away with it too....... today somebody told me i behave as if i`m perfect because i expect a certain of level of behaviour from my children........sorry, i think thats the difference between being dragged up and being brought up.
Thats why children nowadays shut your hard earned car door with their feet,they feel its easy come ,easy go.......they drive your car but can`t clean it,they don`t care it,but think driving it is their divine right ............,we need to stop allowing that.....stop buying children $150 sneakers when they can neither count to 150 or spell one hundred and fifty............ babies nowadays get so many gifts at these huge birthday parties thats its obscene ...........wouldn`t that money be better spent on giving to children less fortunate and teaching our little princes and princesses the lesson of giving ........they speak to us anyway,chores is a thing for mothers and fathers,taking out the trash is a foreign language.............. they do no schoolwork,as no one checks, we r too busy getting on with our life not knowing what a dysfunctional kid can DO TO OUR lives..........The New York Times said today that having an adolescent at home is the thing that causes the most unhappiness in households.....thats all races.can u imagine that?...........
In Jamaica when we were children the village raised us if someone came to our mothers with bad behaviour they saw from us on the street we would surely get it, now when someone reports bad behaviour on the streets they r told off in no uncertain terms or beaten to a pulp.
In some cases your life is on the line if u dare to reprimand a child,so the village allows them to run wild,why have our lives threatened for somebody elses child ..............
Being poor is no excuse,so is it the Americanization of Jamaica ? Is it a lack of education?Is it only black people ?is it only one class ? is it all classes ,all colours?is there a lost generation ? one thing for sure at the rate we r going ,our dirty linen will continue to be our daily statistics .........and it so happens they ARE majority black.
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This is so,so,true. Nowadays, parents little darlings are our,"big monsters". The music listened today, with it's countless expletives & the degrading of the female,has influenced a culture, a nation , a people, leading to mass erosion of the mind and the quality of thought. These kids today aren't breaking-up these kinds of "cd's", they're actually buying them!!, so let's brace ourseleves for much more intense eroding of the mind and music.
Teenagers should not just drink responsibly but should also LISTEN responsibly!!. Music, marketing, peer-pressure are some of the major factors why parents have lost a hold of their children, especially since it was such a relaxed grip to begin with.
Children nowadays have learnt to accept all this garbage thrown there way but as it is known that the highest degree of learning is to "unlearn"....."unlearn" dirty habits ,attitudes and ways.....this can only be brought about by the re-intstalation of core values, replacing the so called "role model", with the parent and returning education and love to power, withing the heart, soul & mind of the child.
This is much easier said than done but let us all start with the man in the mirror, one step at a time and see where it takes us.....good luck one and all!!!
Happy belated BirthdayYour comments on raising children. I don't think it is race but> I do think there is a lot to the Americanization of the developing world and our> generation - I'm 58 - and I have watched my peers raise their children both in the> Caribbean and in the USA with the attitude that their children must not be seen to have> less than their peers so they pile on on them whatever they ask for and they ask for> nothing from these children in return, not even basic courtesy, or a show of some good> manners. My peers were brought up just like me - not dragged up to quote you - but you> better believe their children are being dragged up, and consequently their> grandchildren, so the cycle is now almost impossible to break. Did you see the STAR> some weeks ago - where 2 police women broke out into a fight in the police station? > One of my Jamaican friends thought it was funny and emailed it to me.Nuff said. Our> mission is to control our lives, our children and our grandchildren and to demand from> them what was demanded of us - and more.One Love to you and family, KiddoBetty C!
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